Safety is paramount. Some of the equipment sold in this section should be used only having first taken guidance from someone with experience. Some items could cause permanent damage, possibly life-changing, if used without knowledge. There are many BDSM events around the world, and there is likely to be someone near you with experience who’s happy to share it. Failing that, there are videos and articles online (good examples: wattsthesafeword.com and bdsminthemind.boydenon.com). When playing with someone you don’t know always ask what experience they have first and make sure they bring up the matter of safety. Don’t leave yourself vulnerable to an inexperienced dom/top, and don’t leave a sub/bottom vulnerable to your inexperience.